So.. I've recently joined a female fitness pageant organised by Nutrifirst (a supplement platform company) and 6productions (an events company) and I'm honestly having the best time of my life.
I love hanging out with the girls (although I don't function as well in big groups) and I really can be myself around them. It's such a blessing knowing all of them (I've met 20/30 of the girls and am closer to around 6 of them) and we've had plenty of fun time together even though the competition kinda just started. It's pretty much the first time I found a group of girls I feel comfortable with. However, this thing comes with its drawbacks. After starting on my fitness journey, I've almost doubled my followers and have been receiving (mostly positive and nice) comments from them. I still don't quite know how to reply to strangers who don't actually know me in real life but I try to be nice most of the time. Today, this happened:
This was from a fellow classmate, who has known me for 7 years, so I'm not offended. If some one not as close were to say this to me I'll just delete him off my facebook lol.
hahah ok so I assume this was a semi joke cause I'm pretty close to this friend. But if anyone really feels this way, please please please do both of us a favor and unfollow me. I'm really not being cocky here- I think the biggest blessing we have as human beings is that we have a choice in everything. If you get annoyed by the stuff I post then just unfollow la. It's just a click away, why make yourself suffer/make me change just cause you don't like what you see?
I think I've became a happier and healthier person ever since Nutrigirl started. I'd even go as far as to say that it's one of the best decision I've made in my life. I'd love for my friends to be supportive of me and happy that I'm so fulfilled and busy doing things that I love.
Honestly, I wanna see me be brave
Basically I posted a picture of a squat and asked for advice regarding routines that I can follow. When I go to the gym, I don't specifically follow any routines. I usually do what I like or think is fun (back raises, pull up, lats pull down, squats, stepping machine). I don't really have back day/legs day/chest day cause I kinda do the same few exercises everyday. #restis4theweak
When I do these exercises, I would just do like.. until I get bored? Hahha I really like it when I have a friend to tell me to do say.. 20 squats 30 kg, 15 squats 40 kg, 10 squats 50kg, 5 squats 60kg and 1squat 70kg. That was what I used to do in aus! Shout to Mark, my first ever gym buddy in Aus, and Shirgin, a fellow Nutrigirl, who was nice enough to train with me a couple of days back.
So I was looking forward to comments (even from strangers) telling me different stuff I could try but here comes P, dishing out advice in the form of truism laced with superiority.
1) no shit, I obviously know that a training regime is good for me
2) who are you to say that it's leading me nowhere? Do you even know where I'm trying to go?
3)Do I even know you? If all you want is recognition and appreciation for your "wise words" and "advice" please go to your mom instead of sitting on your high horse, trying to dispense non-constructive advice to people on Instagram
4) I added the ^^ to release any tension- thought it was a nice touch ^^
On point 2: TBH I don't even know where I'm trying to go. I know that some girls would go to the gym wanting to work on specific body parts for aesthetics purposes or cause they like how it looks. On the other hand, I truly believe that my body is a reflection of my lifestyle. I don't wanna do squats just cause I wanna get a great ass cause what happens next? I truly truly enjoy all most of the workout I put myself through and the nice perky ass that comes along is gr8 but it's not the main goal I have in mind.
On point 3: I would appreciate genuine comments and advice by people that I don't know. One thing I love about this fitness circle is that most people are really humble and willing to help. I started out with calisthenics and honestly everyone there to support each other, not judge and compare.
Being helpful is one thing; feeding your ego with absolutely no intention to help is another.
I'm very sure this will not be the nastiest comment I'll get on social media. In fact, this isn't nasty at all. But it annoys me and I need to get it out of my system. I'm also quite prepared for the nastier stuff because if they stoop low enough to make a personal attack, I'll just comment on their penis size ^^
While I'm at this topic, I've had quite a couple of friends messaging me because they observed my change. Obviously, being in a fitness pageant would entail working out and appearing for events. I'm quite a dedicated worker (case in point: when I was tutoring for NUS, I spent more time giving consultation than teaching in class even though I'm not paid for the former. I just feel that my "job" is not to just be there for that h every week, but it is to educate and help my students achieve their best potential. In fact, I "studied" EC1101 more than the rest of my 3 modules and honors thesis combined) so when there are events and I meet nice people, I feel like it's only right that (since I received free training etc) I do a shout out to thank them for their help etc. I'm not getting paid for it but I just feel that it's part of my "job" to do it?
Let's say you're working in a cafe, you'd like it that your friends visit you right? Not to buy stuff from you but just to say hi and maybe you could make a coffee or cake for them. That's kinda the mentality I have with Nutrigirl and her events.. Inevitably, due to the nature of certain sponsorship, I'd have to do some obligatory shout outs. But most (actually so-far all) of my posts are pretty genuine. If anything, I'm self disclosing a huge side of me by telling the world how I feel about certain things.
So yeah I'm sorry that I'm not sorry that I've been "advertising" what I've been up to on my social media. To me, it's merely a reflection of my life and what I've been up to that day. It'll be great if you'd like to pop by and say hi and understand the fitness industry more. If not, you could very easily scroll down or surf 9gag instead.
So yes, back to the friends. Basically I've been receiving two types of comments. Firstly:
This was from a fellow classmate, who has known me for 7 years, so I'm not offended. If some one not as close were to say this to me I'll just delete him off my facebook lol.
I'm glad that my body is showing changes (as I mentioned, it is merely a reflection of my lifestyle) and I'm ecstatic to be in the best shape of my life at the moment. But I feel that I have so much more to offer on top of that. It would be a shame if one day no one is interested in my life/my thoughts/my company because the focus is mainly on my looks. I would really be very upset and disappointed..
So yeah I'm glad to hear compliments from people but more of the "hey I'm glad you've finally gotten your act tgth" or the "hey I'm proud of your fitness journey and commitment towards it" or the "you go girl!" than the "hey wanna hook up?" Or the "you look sexy follow back?"
The next group of friends..
hahah ok so I assume this was a semi joke cause I'm pretty close to this friend. But if anyone really feels this way, please please please do both of us a favor and unfollow me. I'm really not being cocky here- I think the biggest blessing we have as human beings is that we have a choice in everything. If you get annoyed by the stuff I post then just unfollow la. It's just a click away, why make yourself suffer/make me change just cause you don't like what you see?
I think I've became a happier and healthier person ever since Nutrigirl started. I'd even go as far as to say that it's one of the best decision I've made in my life. I'd love for my friends to be supportive of me and happy that I'm so fulfilled and busy doing things that I love.
Honestly, I wanna see me be brave
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